Friday, March 9, 2007

Did I Get To Me Yet?

I began by telling you how "it all started with me." Let me explain. A friend recommended a book to me several years ago. When I finally got around to buying the book--here is where everything started! Now, God already woke up our faith by having me quit work and learn to trust His provision. Now He was going to work on me...

The book was called Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl. I cannot imagine I would have ever bought this book except the friend who recommended it. What I found inside completely changed my view of marriage, family, wives, husbands, family roles, etc. I had never heard teaching like this in my life!!! Debi Pearl was actually suggesting what I had suspected all along--when the Bible says, "Wives, submit to your husband" it actually means submit!!I heard a sermon years ago before I was married that said "submit" only means "respond to." I could accept that definition and even made a note in my Bible. This book is not politically correct by any means! But instantly our marriage was happier. It was like a huge burden had been taken off of my shoulders. I only had to be a wife and mother. My main job in life was to be my husband's helper. This was such refreshing news!

Now I know there are women who just want to scream when they see me believing such obvious "garbage!" Ladies, it's all there in the Bible. You can read an excerpt of the book at the website. ( Just search the articles with the title of the book. I am grateful that I finally heard someone explain how God intended all this to work. And guess what? There are many, many others out there who agree with this "new" theory. (Ha!) I found them all over the web. I just don't personally know very many of them. In my life, most women think submit is a dirty word.

I don't think many Christian wives are rebellious on purpose--I think they have just been fed lies so long from the world or the enemy that they are acting the only way they know how.

So how do I share this new knowledge of mine with others?


  1. This article hit home for me. I did the same thing. A friend recommended Created To Be His Help Meet to me and while I was reading and crying, God was revealing to me my purpose. I had a great marraige before the book, now I have a heavenly marriage. I didn't think it could get any better. At one point in time, my husband was not very considerate of my feelings. Now, he is a different person because I am a different person. He is now able to be the person God created him to be. Amanda Gowan

  2. I agree so much! I loaned the book to my sister but she just isn't able to "swallow" what Debi writes. I am so thankful that I read the book--it changed how I looked at everything.

  3. i bought debi's book about 2 years ago too. God had already been working on my heart with submission. Debi just put the last nail in the "independent married domination" coffin for me. I gave it all to the Lord and he begin to work on me. My husband couldn't understand what was happening. He thought I was seeing someone and being nice and covering it up, or that i had alterior motives that i wanted to drop on him like a bomb. It took him a while to even get used to me bringing him his plate of food and drink to the living room, when before I would demand my way about all the happy family that BETTER(stomp) sit at the table together!(lol)..anyway, I am starting to see a theme here brenda. Debi's book -to- biblical womanhood-to homemaking-to-staying at home...hmmm

  4. Oh, while I have not read this book, I have just realized my ONLY job is to be a daughter of the Lord, a wife, a mother, a homemaker, and all that those things entail. And, do you know what? I am so relieved because, really, it is so simple. As long as I obey the Lord, everything else will come together, you know? Thank God I don't have to worry about *changing* my husband, or really anyone else for that matter. It's really just about God and what He's doing with me. :)

  5. Brenda, I can't believe this. I won this book in a giveaway and just started reading it. :|

    Given what you know about my situation and that I specifically asked YOU for advice - this is phenomenal to me. Wow!!!!! :) GOD'S WORKING, GIRL!


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