Soon I will be the parent of a 9 year old.
This is new territory for me. I am a little nervous. I know from my college degree that "early childhood" ends at the age of 8. According to the experts, anyway. So I feel like we are entering an new era--and I'm not sure I like it.
I want to have the right expectations for her. Let me establish a few things first.
1. I am raising a daughter. This is different from raising a son. My goal is to have a godly young woman in the end. If you are raising a son, then your goal is to have a godly young man at the end. This may seem obvious, but our society mostly speaks about raising "kids" and the lines have been severely blurred. This all came to my attention about 2 years ago and it was eye-opening. SO, I am raising a daughter.
2. I want her to remain a child as long as she can. I don't want a silly, irresponsible, immature young lady...so I know there is important training that needs to go on now. However, I want her to play with her doll and her dollhouse, and her horses as long as she wants to. I know she isn't nearly through playing with toys, but I know 9 year olds who are. And they concern me. So, allowing her to have a childhood is important to me.
3. At the same time, 9 should bring with it more responsibility. School time will change a bit. Chores, expectations, etc. also. The bar should be raising a bit each year, right?
4. How do I encourage her to become a young lady while letting her still be a child? She's already nine and yet, she's only nine. You know?
So these are the questions running through my head tonight. I googled all sorts of things about 9 year olds and 3rd graders...and the information that I found was so totally not based on God's word or even godly thinking that it was unreal! I do NOT have the world's or society's view of raising our daughter. I need godly advice. I need biblical advice.
Can any of you with 9+ year old daughters give me some advice? I'd really appreciate it!
And may I just say that I am SO HAPPY we decided to homeschool? I feel like she is being given an extension on her childhood--and protection from many, many things I feel she is too young for. And I don't care if she "looks like" the other 3rd graders around here--I expect she will be different because of being homeschooled. I don't know...