Friday, March 21, 2008

Friday Meme: I Wish I Had Known

The meme today is "What I Wish I Had Known My First Year of Homeschooling." Well, since this is my first year of homeschooling...I think it should be fresh on my mind!

First let me say this: the first year I was a public school teacher I kept a running list of all the things no one told me. Things I thought should have been told to a new teacher. We didn't have mentors back then--you were just given the key to your room and good luck to ya. Later, our district had an official mentor program for every new teacher and I got to help on our campus one year. I whipped out my little list of everything no one remembered to tell me (little things like how we needed to stack the chairs at the end of the day for the custodians, which cafeteria line your class was supposed to use, etc.) and made up a packet for the new folks. It was good. Even a few years later when I was no longer involved, I had people asking me for a copy of that packet to give to the new person on their grade level.

Well, it's a great time to be a new homeschooler, let me tell you. With internet access, there is no end to the information you can get on homeschooling! I read books all last summer, read blogs, read articles online, read everything I could get my hands on. I can honestly say that there isn't much I wasn't aware of before I started.

However, knowing something in your head and realizing something with your heart are two different things. I wish I had known:

1. How homeschooling would affect the relationship between my daughters. They are playmates and friends now. I didn't dream that would happen!

2. Just how much more time we would have as a family. I didn't know "school" would take such little time--or how much school happens away from the table.

3. Our role as parents. I've learned it now, but for 6 or 7 years I didn't "get" it. I am so thankful for the opportunity to be with my girls all day now. I feel like we are making up lost time for those years they spent with someone else. I now have the chance to teach them about the Lord throughout our days. I consider this my greatest responsibility and biggest honor.

4. How smart my children are. When Sweetheart (8 years old) was in public school I was honestly doubting her ability as a student. I didn't believe the teachers when they told me she might need "further testing in the future", but she sure was drowning in school. A few adjustments later...she is flourishing. How sad for children who spend their entire school career pigeon-holed as being less than able. Now I can delight in her strengths and help her in areas where she is weak.
5. To start homeschooling sooner!!!! I never even questioned sending my baby off to Kindergarten. That's just what you do. I wish I had thought that through more, but I'm thankful we are here now!

Head on over to The Heart of the Matter to see what others wish they had known!


  1. I love all of the family time, too. When my kids get older, I think they will appreciate it.

  2. That's a great list. I've read several from the meme and have seen so many say, "I wish I'd brought them home sooner." That is so neat.

  3. Heidi @ Southpaugh HomeschoolMarch 22, 2008 at 8:12 PM

    What a great list!
    I really have to agree with number 5!!
    Thanks for sharing!! : )

  4. Good job, Brenda! Look how far you have come! I am so pleased for you and your children!

  5. Thanks for stopping by my blog. Great post! You're blog looks great, I'll be back to read more!

  6. I love this post! I just found your blog and feel like we have so much in common. I pulled my son out of 2nd last year and just started with my daughter this fall after she finished K in public school. I too wish I have started homeschooling sooner with both and can't believe I sent them away just because it is what we are "suppose" to do. I marvel in our new lives everyday...this is the life for me!!


I don't get to talk to a lot of actual grown-ups during the day, so your comments make me really happy! :)