And, if you remember, I had a little strategy planned to get a certain child moving in the mornings.
I'm sharing this not to shame my daughter, but to offer encouragement to any other mamas who might have a child like mine. The kind where organization is an issue. The kind who need training. I get her. I AM her. It was a mystery to me how my sister kept her half of the room so clean and mine always looked like a bomb went off. A real mystery.
Our brains just don't work the same way as other people's brains do. But that isn't an excuse! It's just a reason. I firmly believe that I can train my daughter and help her to figure out more organized ways of being before she leaves this home. I don't want her to struggle with this her whole life.
And I might feel guilty and like I'm a real parenting failure....except I also gave birth to S's mini-me. Our other daughter keeps her room practically perfect with no prompting. She will never need to be taught how to be organized--she was born that way.
But for us more creative types--organization can be a mystery. And I? I have unlocked the keys to the universe for my daughter.
I sat up last night and typed up a little sheet with 2 columns:
Place & Activity
I listed, for example, "BATHROOM" and then in the 2nd column, all the things that one should get done while in the bathroom including "take your dirty clothes and wet towels with you when you leave." Then, I listed all the things one should accomplish in their bedroom BEFORE they come to breakfast.
After her shower, I looked into the bathroom and saw this: (cue angels singing)
And when she came be-bopping to the breakfast table, dressed, hair fixed....I peeked into her room:
Here is the most amazing part: That girl was ready in about 30 minutes and we started school at 9:00am. There was no back-tracking. She did everything that needed to be done in one area before moving on to another area. She was so proud too. I know I always felt relieved when someone helped me be organized. I felt lost on how to get started until someone showed me. I get her.
I don't know if it was a one-hit wonder or the start of something grand, but that little list made a WORLD of difference at our house today.
Just a little help ordering her motions was all she needed. A little logical thinking that would have never occurred to her on it's own.
Thankful and happy tonight!
Tomorrow I'll share about how our plan to be super productive panned out...