tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1686582774155973298.post2769935845452983453..comments2023-12-02T02:30:41.503-06:00Comments on The Family Revised: Doing It AllBrendahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13893224927335285415noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1686582774155973298.post-41790000383950883552012-01-17T23:45:35.295-06:002012-01-17T23:45:35.295-06:00I try to get myself and the house looking nice bef...I try to get myself and the house looking nice before hubby gets home. It's not always possible though because he often comes home early to finish his work from home. When he comes home to a mess (which happens a lot...I have 3 very active boys...and a baby girl) I try not to stress about it (hard for me because I'm the perfectionist type). He knows it's not possible for me to do it all. If he has a nice home-cooked meal and the kids are behaving pretty well and we were able to get some school done, then he can overlook the rest. This is just the season we're in right now. It will not always be this way.<br /><br />I do often stress about the school work that goes unfinished day after day, but I found this poem/prayer recently and it has really helped me: "Heavenly Father, When things get rough and the days are long, help me remember, of all the things I teach, it is what they learn about you that matters the most."Jenaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00426500904904994427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1686582774155973298.post-36803959216134437352012-01-17T11:54:00.853-06:002012-01-17T11:54:00.853-06:00Megan--excellent point about what is important to ...Megan--excellent point about what is important to your husband! I know mine prefers a neat house! Funny that he married me :) And Erin, yes. Its me being hard on myself most of the time.<br /><br />Kind of dreaming of the maid now but I'm too horrified to think about them coming into my house!Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13893224927335285415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1686582774155973298.post-71622362201667656822012-01-17T11:47:16.472-06:002012-01-17T11:47:16.472-06:00I think that it really depends on what is importan...I think that it really depends on what is important to you and your spouse. If your spouse's love language is "acts of service", it is more important to have the house tidy and a meal cooking and your hair done when he walks in the door than it would be if his language was "words of affirmation". For my husband, I've learned that it is more important that we all run to the door to give him a hug than that the house is in order, so that's what I focus on. If we can do that AND the house is clean, great! But like you said, we can't do it all, so I don't worry about it if the toys are still decorating the floor. <br /><br />Also, I'm having a maid service come out for the first time tomorrow because I am learning to give myself a break in the "doing it all" department. With baby #3 coming and wanting to spend more time and energy on homeschooling, not to mention having a couple projects for "me" that I want to have time to develop, something has to give. I'd like to wait until we are completely debt free to add that to our budget, but we're making good progress and...like you said...I can't do it all. At least not and have energy and patience left to be happy to be around my children!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00706163780474900572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1686582774155973298.post-75956520307654084752012-01-17T10:33:43.406-06:002012-01-17T10:33:43.406-06:00Phew! Those were some big chunks of meat to think...Phew! Those were some big chunks of meat to think on. My hubby works from home, so he sees all stages of life as our day evolves... but our ultimate goal every day is to have things neat and tidy by dinnertime, just because it makes us all feel better. I don't do any "freshening up" myself, but I also make sure to get dressed every morning and so on.<br /><br />I also struggle with the balance. Yesterday we took a day off of "school" just to get the house clean and to run some errands. There just isn't time to do everything I need to do 100% everyday. Hubby and I consider this time of our lives as one in which homeschooling is the priority.... so if the house isn't as tidy as it could be, or if a meal comes out of a box once in a while... we're OK with that. Well, he is. I'm harder on myself than he is. ;-) *I* wish I could do it all - but for me, that stems from a desire to find my worth and value in what I can accomplish each day. I really like check boxes! So it's a good humbling from the Lord to not be able to, for me. If that makes sense!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09932119838113244830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1686582774155973298.post-86152795861671220782012-01-17T09:33:38.277-06:002012-01-17T09:33:38.277-06:00Q--bring it!
And I know you guys are right. I thin...Q--bring it!<br />And I know you guys are right. I think pregnancy is messing with my mind.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13893224927335285415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1686582774155973298.post-18114640224888241222012-01-17T09:18:16.280-06:002012-01-17T09:18:16.280-06:00you know what Brenda there are people like that-- ...you know what Brenda there are people like that-- but that doesnt mean they are growing God children and character training, it doesnt mean they have a good relationship with said children, it doesnt mean that they have a happy blessed home--- it might mean that organization and check marks are more important to them then a snuggle on the couch reading Goodnight moon for the hundreth time, or they might not let their 12 year old make "messes" in the kitchen cooking dinner because it is not effecient, they may not take time to take dinner to a sick friend or be open to saying YES (like we are :0)-- or hope to be)<br /><br />I think we have a happy mix-- all in moderation!Carrie Thompsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01670280441133422191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1686582774155973298.post-64042954738321883232012-01-17T09:08:23.924-06:002012-01-17T09:08:23.924-06:00Train the children, train the children, train the ...Train the children, train the children, train the children. List priorities and live them out at the expense of lesser priorities.<br /><br />Gads, I sense an entire blog post on this myself!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com